You need this reset…

I help influential women return to themselves.

It can be challenging to unleash your full potential as a professional when faced with back-to-back challenging experiences.

That’s why I’m here.

I provide faith-based, soul care strategies needed to activate your confidence and get you back into alignment with your self and purpose.

Go Be HER‘ is Here! 

Your Self Coaching Guide 

Back to You! 

A personal desk companion to help you reset and coach yourself daily. 

I’ve been where you’ve been.
In February of 2021, I took a hard reset.

With all of the fear and reasons not to, I booked a one-way ticket to Costa Rica to start a brand new life. I put my home on the market, enrolled in a 21-day book bootcamp and set out on the journey to becoming a full time author and life coach.

Prior to this, I was working at a high level in nonprofit, serving in a high level, Mayoral appointed role for the City of Baltimore and building my business as a Life Coach. A tragic incident in my neighborhood, forced me to break away from those achievements and pursue a very necessary life reset. 

I’d always been a writer, but I didn’t leave much room in my schedule at all to fully pursue it. In that first 21-days, of resetting my life in Costa Rica, I created a book, I am so proud of. 

This book compiles some of the many ways that I now help women reset daily through my coaching practice. Go Be HER: Your Self-Coaching Guide back to You is a book every woman needs.

With 70+ prompts and affirmations for you to flip to daily, you’ll be feeling more yourself than ever before and ready to become the woman you always knew you could be.


At the same time as I was creating this book for YOU, I created a process of coaching that I believe every woman needs. A process that helps you reconnect with yourself, and God after a difficult season.

I have helped women evolve, following even the most painful life experiences, and thrive. This coaching process enables you to create greater levels of impact, without burnout and stress in your life. 

My clients have achieved much in life- personally and professionally, but, when we work together, they activate new levels of impact, as they can create in the world. 

Indeed, these women are breaking glass ceilings and doing so from a  place of rest. 

We’ve all been through those tumultuous experiences that seem to hold us back from the life we want. 

As your coach, I help you see past the fear and into your God ordained future. You’ll unlearn the previous programming that kept you in broken and anxious cycles and step into a life of power and ease, with simple strategies that help you move forward.

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My coaching process is for you if:

You are committed to living a life of peace, even in the face of fear and tragedy.

You’ve done the work to heal from your past, and you’re ready to move forward with a clear vision.

You KNOW that if you could just get some time away for yourself, without distraction, you would come out on top.

You need a little support finding the balance as you rebuild a new and healthy life. I believe you’re right there at the edge of your breakthrough. And I am here to guide you all the way through to the finish line.

If you’re ready to meet yourself and learn all that you need to to become HER today, then this is for you!

My clients are getting to where they want to be because they are seeing themselves there in our coaching together.


letting others define them
approaching life timidly
being unclear & confused


redefining themselves
completely redesigning their lives

Being clear, Decisive and taking action

By connecting with all parts of themselves, they are reconnecting with the voice of God and finding the clarity and courage to move forward. Join us on the journey of self-discovery. Book a free mini-call to learn more and see if we’re a good fit. 

Life Strategy Retreat

This 3-day, multi-session process is perfect for the professional who’s hit a wall in their personal growth.

You’ll go from feeling weighed down by putting everyone before yourself, to uncovering the mental traps that kept you there.

You’ll leave feeling seen and with a clear plan on how to stay aligned with self and God.

Coaching Subscriptions

Bundle your sessions and uncover the traps that keep you bound. Each week, we explore the topic of your choice and gain new awareness for how to move forward.

Following the sessions, you’ll be clear on how to break out of these cycles, be aware of where they start, and have tools to avoid them so that you can stay free.

“It’s like being shown things about myself that I didn’t realize (or had forgotten) were there.”

Barbara Leary, Award-Winning Children’s Book Author

“I came here a little heavy, but I’m leaving light, fluffy and jovial.”

I needed to be here. It was a God thing. It was orchestrated by God. And He literally showed up this whole weekend. If you are on the fence, book your [retreat] sessions with Becca. They are life changing. She has a gift, a God-given gift. It will be life changing for you, like it’s been life changing for me. Choose to go in deep and choose to change your life. So make sure you book… it’s just that simple. And then let God do the rest.

Alexis Harris, IT Professional & Restaurateur 

Real results from real clients


I’ve been there before.

When will I ever have the time to catch my breath?


“It feels like even after the vacation, I’m back to going through the motions, and this SUCKS! I just know this isn’t all life was cut out to be. There has to be more.”

Well, the time is actually now. If you’ve made it this far, then chances are, you’re ripe and ready for an evolution.

I’ve been there.

Not being able to think clearly, judgement clouded, stuck in the same relationship cycles, not being able to make decisions for yourself and losing confidence in the ones you have made.  The critical voice inside your head won’t let you catch a break. It’s like a broken record of judgement and condemnation, questioning everything in your life, including God’s love.

My clients are getting to where they want to be because they are seeing themselves there in our coaching together.

→ They’re moving from letting others define them to redefining themselves.

→ They’re moving from approaching life timidly to completely redesigning their lives.

→ They’re going from being unclear and confused to reimagining what’s possible.

Follow my journey!

By taking time to themselves, they are learning to reparent their younger self, and better connect with the voice of God that is calling them forward.

Join us on this journey of discovery. Book a free mini-call to learn more and see if we’re a good fit.

I’m an author, life coach & strategist.

I’m Rebbecca Oluwatoyin Bakare! But you can call me, Bex. I am obsessed with seeing powerful women set free! Since 2017,  I’ve been working with entrepreneurs, doctors, and C-suite executives, to get them back on track with the lives they dream of. 

I truly care about people and seeing them experience the best this life has to offer.

Prior to becoming a Life Coach, I served as Director of a multimillion dollar nonprofit and as Co-Chair of the Commission on Sustainability for one of the U.S.’s largest cities. 

Like myself, I found that many powerful and influential women had trouble reaching new heights due to mental, emotional and physical blockages that got in the way of them seeing themselves and the way forward. I have recently shifted my focus to helping women entrepreneurs and remote workers critically analyze their pasts and overcome negative cycles created by shame.

My clients are conquering the anxieties of new roles as CEOs, reaching new levels in their relationships, and others have launched into new endeavors they didn’t feel equipped or qualified for. 

My go-getter mindset in the face of road blocks is contagious, and you’ll find yourself believing you can do anything too, no matter what’s in front of you!

“The world is waiting for what you have to offer on the other side of your freedom.”

– Rebbecca, your fave life coach