I’ve recently jumped back into the Bumble saddle. If you’re not familiar with Bumble, it’s a dating app, where women make the first move. I’ve had my bouts with online dating, with not much to show for it. But after some deep, intentional self work, personal reflection, and achievement of some personal, I’m finally mentally and emotionally available again for the adventure of romance.
Dating is quite a huge topic, filled with many angles to explore. While I am not a dating coach, it does surface often as a topic when coaching clients. As with anything, I like to apply the wisdom of the Word to help guide us to the truth and joy that we deserve and seek. So here are 3 scriptures (and relevant questions) that we can all apply when dating to eliminate the drama and open the door to what we truly desire.
“You will know them by their fruits.” (Matthew 7:15-20)
What are the fruits being produced from their life? Are they equal to the fruits you are producing? Less or more? Will their fruits taint or conflict with your fruit? Are they good fruit or rotten? Are you meant to support them in transforming their fruit, or will it only distract you from growing your own or make yours rotten?
“But the fruits of the Spirit are these…” (Galatians 5:22-23)
Does your date add love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control to your life? Do they possess these characteristics themselves? Do they sharpen you and make you want to produce more of it? Or are they causing you to lose these fruits?
“The blessings of God they maketh rich and add no sorrow.” (Proverbs 10:22)
Is this person adding value to your life or bringing sorrow? Are you often sad, disappointed and drained?
If the sadness is coming from the length of time it takes to hear from them, then there may be an attachment issue that needs to be addressed (find out your attachment style here), or they could just not be as interested as you are, and it could be a sign to move on to another more suitable suitor for you.
The person for you will have fruits that reflect your desires, will help you grow your own fruits and will add richness and joy to your life. Use these scriptures to quickly weed out those who do not.
I’m a big proponent of the Book of Life and its principles, which guide us to a life of peace and everlasting joy. Dating tips online can lead you in many directions depending on the source’s personal experience and perspective. The Word of God is a great source for knowledge that can be applied in every season. Use these scriptures and questions to help you decide how to navigate your dating life. If the fruits are not adding up to the life you want, you have a choice – leave or experience the consequences.
Dating, romance, and relationships are tricky. There is no foolproof formula to getting it right. Have people in your life who help you assess how this romantic partnership lines up with where you’re going.
While it might be hard to see from here, down the line, with the right wisdom applied, you’ll be there.
And if you need support with letting go or moving forward, I’m here. Let’s chat!
