I’ve recently jumped back into the Bumble saddle. I’m finally open to intentional dating again. I’ve had my fair share of bouts with online dating, with not much to show for it. But after some deep, intentional self work, personal reflection, and handling of personal achievements, I’m finally available enough emotionally and mentally for the adventure of romance.
Dating is quite a huge topic, filled with many angles to explore. While I am not a dating coach, it does surface as a topic when coaching clients. As with anything, I like to apply the wisdom of the Word to help guide us all to the truth and joy we deserve and seek.
So here are 3 scriptures (and relevant questions) that we can all apply when dating to eliminate the drama and open the door to what we truly desire.
“You will know them by their fruits.” (Matthew 7:15-20)
What are the fruits being produced from their life? Are they equal to the fruits you are producing? Less or more? Will their fruits taint or conflict with your fruit? Are they good fruit or rotten? Are you meant to support them in transforming their fruit, or will it only distract you from growing your own or make yours rotten?
“But the fruits of the Spirit are these…” (Galatians 5:22-23)
Does your date add love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control to your life? Do they possess these characteristics themselves? Do they sharpen you and make you want to produce these more? Or are they causing you to lose any of these?
“The blessings of God they maketh rich and add no sorrow.” (Proverbs 10:22)
Is this person adding value to your life or bringing sorrow? Are you often sad, disappointed and drained?**
**If the sadness is coming from the length of time it takes to hear from them, then there may be an attachment issue needing to be addressed (find out your attachment style here), or they could just not be as interested as you and it could be a sign to move on to another more suitable suitor for you.
The person for you will have fruits that reflect your desires, will help you grow your own fruits and will add richness and joy to your life. Use these scriptures to weed out those who do not quickly.
I’m a big proponent of the Book of Life and its principles that guide us to a life of peace and everlasting joy. Dating tips online can lead you in many directions depending on the source’s experience and personal perspective. The Word of God is a great source for knowledge that can be applied in every season. Use these scriptures and questions to help you decide how to navigate your dating life. If the fruits are not adding up to the life you want, you have a choice – leave or experience the consequences.
Dating, romance, and relationships are tricky. There is no foolproof formula to getting it right. Have people in your life who help you assess how this romantic partnership lines up with where you’re going. And if you need support with letting go or moving forward through coaching, I’m here. Let’s chat!